Hey Magical One!
Many moons ago I was in a relationship that’s not the one I’m in now. It wasn’t the right fit for me, but I had committed to it, so I stuck it out. For 13 years.
There were some painful times during that period of my life. The biggest thing was that I didn’t feel truly seen or recognized. I didn’t feel like I could be myself either. It was very painful.
Let me give you an example.
One day we had a fight – I don’t remember what about – and I went out to my car to cry it out (and probably scream – it’s the best place to scream). I felt the strong need to express myself, to let out all the anger and frustration, and the only way I could think of (besides screaming) was through a poem.
So I wrote one.
I don’t remember it word for word, but I do remember that it was about being a bird in a cage who needed to be set free.
After I was done writing it, I felt so much better. It was like I had gone to a therapy session and all the tension had melted away. It was a beautiful, sweet release. I tucked it away in the car and continued on with my life.
Several days later – he found it.
Not only did he find it, but he took it personally and freaked out about it. I was ridiculed and shamed.
I stopped any kind of writing after that for a very long time.
I believed the lie that writing would get me in trouble and that I shouldn’t do it.
“Should” “Should be” “Should have been” “If only I had…” “shouldn’t” are all shame and self-shaming words that stop writers from writing.
All. The. Time.
I’ve recently healed from it. (Can’t you tell…I’m writing you every day!)
However the “shoulds” are showing up in your life, know it’s a lie that only you can recognize and move past. It’s a lie someone told you about yourself.
Your voice deserves to be heard!
One way to find the time to write is to take yourself on a writing date. It’s the best way I know how to get super focused and get a lot done in a short amount of time.
If you hear yourself saying “I should do that!”, it’s because you want to.
Don’t “should” on yourself, just do it. You’ll feel better.
Join me this Saturday for National Writing Date Day at 2pm Eastern.
It will be a Facebook Live event inside the Writing Date group, so be sure to join once you say yes.
Showering you with braindrops and glitter.
Natalie Marie Collins
Business Coach + Magical Unicorn